Problems of Everyday Life

Task 1. Read the text and fill in the table.


Stress is a natural part of life. The expressions are familiar to us, Im stressed out, Im under too much stress, or Work is one big stress. Stress can be both physical and mental. You may feel physical stress which is the result of too much to do, not enough sleep, a poor diet or the effects of an illness. Stress can also be mental: when you worry about money, a loved ones illness, retirement, or experience an emotionally devastating event, such as the death of a spouse or being fired from work. The following advice may help you fight your stress.

BE REALISTIC. If you feel overwhelmed by some activities (yours and/or your familys), learn to say NO! Eliminate an activity that is not absolutely necessary. You may be taking on more responsibility than you can or should handle. If you meet resistance, give reasons why youre making the changes. Be willing to listen to others suggestions and be ready to compromise. And dont hesitate to ask for help if you need it.

MEDITATE. Just ten to twenty minutes of quiet reflection may bring relief from chronic stress as well as increase your tolerance to it. Use the time to listen to music, relax and try to think of pleasant things or nothing.

VISUALIZE. Use your imagination and picture how you can manage a stressful situation more successfully. Whether its an exam, a presentation or moving to a new place, many people feel visual rehearsals boost self-confidence and enable them to take a more positive approach to a difficult task.

TAKE ONE THING AT A TIME. For people under tension or stress, an ordinary workload can sometimes seem unbearable. The best way to cope with this feeling of being overwhelmed is to take one task at a time. Pick one urgent task and work on it. Once you accomplish that task, choose the next one. The positive feeling of checking off tasks is very satisfying. It will motivate you to keep going.

LIVE PRODUCTIVELY. Firstly, exercise regularly. Regular exercise is a popular way to relieve stress. Twenty to thirty minutes of physical activity benefits both the body and the mind. Also, find a hobby. Take a break from your worries by doing something you enjoy. Whether its gardening or painting, schedule time to indulge your interest. And, finally, stick to a healthy life style. Good nutrition makes a difference. Limit intake of caffeine and alcohol, get adequate rest, exercise, and balance work and play.

SHARE YOUR FEELINGS. A conversation with a friend lets you know that you are not the only one having a bad day, caring for a sick child or working in a busy office. Stay in touch with friends and family. Let them provide love, support and guidance. Dont try to cope alone.

GIVE IN OCCASIONALLY. Be flexible! If you find youre meeting constant opposition in either your personal or professional life, rethink your position or strategy. Arguing only intensifies stressful feelings. If you know you are right, stand your ground, but do so calmly and rationally. Make allowances for others opinions and be prepared to compromise. If you are willing to give in, others may meet you halfway. Not only will you reduce your stress, you may find better solutions to your problems.

GO EASY WITH CRITICISM. You may expect too much of yourself and others. Try not to feel frustrated, let down, disappointed or even trapped when another person does not measure up. The other person may be a family member or a friend whom you are trying to change to suit yourself. Remember, everyone is unique, and has his or her own virtues, shortcomings, and right to develop as an individual.



How to fight stress?
Advice What to Do Example from Your Life
Be realistic. ____________________________________ ____________________________________   ____________________________________ ____________________________________  
Visualize. ____________________________________ ____________________________________   ____________________________________ ____________________________________  
Take one thing at a time. ____________________________________ ____________________________________   ____________________________________ ____________________________________  
Live productively. ____________________________________ ____________________________________   ____________________________________ ____________________________________  
Give in occasionally. ____________________________________ ____________________________________   ____________________________________ ____________________________________  
Go easy with criticism. ____________________________________ ____________________________________   ____________________________________ ____________________________________  

Task 2. Read the text. Match choices (AH) to (16). There are two choices you do not need to use.

How to be Happy and Love Yourself

1 _____________________________

Is it something petty, like, I hate that colour on you, or is a rude comment, such as, Youre lazy!? Petty unfounded comments are like a fly stinging a horse; they should be brushed off, but rude comments need more attention.

2 _____________________________

Am I lazy? If you know the answer off the top of your head, then brush off the comment (unless its repeated behaviour, then you may want to avoid that person, talk to them about it or tell your boss/teacher, if needed).

3 _____________________________

If they think the comment is true, or you can ask the person why they made that comment, and to give you examples. A good friend will be constructive and help you as much as they can.

4 _____________________________

Nobody is perfect, but by being proactive you will improve that particular aspect of yourself. Too meek? Work on it! Take some confidence or public speaking classes. Unfit? Grab a tracksuit and hit the gym. You dont have to do this for every little thing, but working on the big things holding you back will massively improve yourself and your attitude.

5 _____________________________

Theyre opinions that are just meant to hurt your feelings, and are not at all truthful. Try to remember that people often insult out of anger or jealousy. Some people take joy out of hurting others, and anything they say should be put in the back of your mind.

6 _____________________________

If its not a big deal to you, it shouldnt be an issue to others. But remember, laughing at something that really injures your self-esteem is a NO. It just gives others the feeling that they too can do that to you.


A Ask a Trusted Friend

B Listen to the Put Down

C Laugh at Yourself

D Call a Friend

E Ask Yourself if a Rude Comment Is True

F Learn to Ignore Worthless Comments

G Never Give Up

H Work on It if You Think the Person Insulting You Has a Point

Task 3. Your friend has sent you an e-mail saying that she is extremely unhappy now. Write an e-mail where you try to calm her by:

explaining that all people feel unhappy from time to time;

citing the lies that unhappy people love to tell;

advising on how to feel happier and overcome the problems of life.